Setting Goals – See It Done with Effective Visualisation
Setting Goals is something that most of us at least WANT to do, but don’t really follow through on.
Either we set to it with great gusto which results in a full and meaningful list of goals… that then just sits there. Judging me. I mean us. It’s not just me right?
Or, we don’t even know where to start.
For example, “My Goal is to have a better relationship with my family”. That’s great and all, but what does it actually mean?
How do you measure it? What does it look like when it’s achieved? How does it improve your life?
Setting Goals that are SMART
Ok, there’s a LOT on S.M.A.R.T. Goals elseweb. If you’re not familiar, google that shit. You’ll be there all day, if you want.
But very briefly, here’s what the letters stand for:
- Specific (simple, sensible, significant).
- Measurable (meaningful, motivating).
- Achievable (agreed, attainable).
- Relevant (reasonable, realistic and resourced, results-based).
- Time bound (time-based, time limited, time/cost limited, timely, time-sensitive).
Basically, setting goals like the above – a better relationship with family – becomes something like:
I will make a phone call to a family member once per week (for at least a half hour chat), and send a daily WhatsApp message to the family group (updating on my life and enquiring about theirs), so that by the Holiday Season our relationships will have improved enough to ensure no arguments or unnecessary tensions.
Like, it might not work out perfectly in that particular scenario. Families are weird.
But it’s good to have goals, and be doing what you can to make things better.
Setting Goals as Future Memories
Visualising your goals is important too though. When we mentally ‘walk through’ a scenario before it happens, we are far more likely to a) do it, and b) do it well.
One way to do this is to think of the goals you’ve set as memories, but of the future not the past.
So, if you’re setting goals that are SMART, you can also take the time each day to build them into a memory of the future.
If I ask you what you did yesterday, and you tell me – I sent a WhatsApp message to my family group, that’s grand. I mean, we might not be that good of friends, that you’d share the details. B
But if we are close friends, and you’re telling me about what happened, you’re likely to be adding detail; what you said, who responded, how you felt before, during and after sending the message, and maybe even what reminded you to send it in the first place, or what you did directly afterwards.
See what I mean? I’m much more likely to remember, be invested in, and believe the second scenario, with all the details. Right?
The same goes for your brain, when visualising your goals.
So set up a page in your Bullet Journal for ‘Setting Goals’, and get started for this month, or this quarter.
Be SMART about setting goals, and build those future memories by touching base with them every day.